Welcome to 2009!

IF AT FIRST YOU DON'T SUCCEED

SKY-DIVING IS NOT FOR YOU!!

But remember, the Key to Success for 2009 is LAUGHTER and RELAXATION.

So re-learn how to have fun.

Re-learn what brings joy to your heart.

Life is for living, and fun and laughter can be free!

Repeating negative patterns
”The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”Albert Einstein
If we don’t change how we respond to negative situations then how can we expect to be any happier?

Remember we are solely responsible for our own happiness.

Think now of a negative pattern that you would like to change. It doesn’t have to be a big one, it can be as simple as: how I drive to work, getting up in the morning or dealing with a stroppy sales attendant.


My pattern:

Now think of a new pattern that you can put in its place, a more empowering one that will bring you a new level of joy and freedom.

For example, sitting in a traffic jam, there’s nothing that you can do about it. No matter how much you curse, it’s not going to change the situation.
Perhaps next time, instead of swearing and getting annoyed that you’re wasting time, use the time to list all the things that you’re grateful in your life. You could plan your next trip away, catch up with old friends (provided, of course that you have a hands free car kit! ) You could choose to simply spend the time admiring the scenery. Or, my personal favourite, when I’m in a supermarket I will bring my Ipod with me and listen to my favourite music while I’m going about my least favourite task! Make a choice to respond in a positive way for you.


My new pattern:



Now make a decision to use these new more positive patterns in your day.

(Shilling , Swords 2008)

short & sweet

This week I am just going to let you ponder on 2 quotes which I feel will get you thinking. As such you can then apply your new perspective to your own life.

" Only 1 thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives.
Where we focus our attention" Greg Anderson

Where are you focusing your attention?

" In nature, nothing is perfect, and everything is perfect. Trees can be contorted, bent in weird ways, and they're still beautiful." Alice Walker

What is beautiful in your life?

Stress Release

Get a Solution to a Problem/Dilemma in times of stress or pressure.

This following technique is taken from Kinesiology.

When you are stressed, or under pressure, blood rushes from the front of your brain, to the back.

This is because the body responds to stress or pressure by pumping adrenaline, in order to activate our fight or flight response (back of the brain)

However, the front of our brain is where we think through issues, and use our logic and decision making abilities. If this is deprived of blood, then it is more difficult to feel calm, and think rationally.

All you need do to bring the blood back to the front of your brain in times of stress or pressure, is to place either your whole hand across your forehead, or your thumb and index finger just lightly on the bulge of your forehead.

Hey presto, stay like this for a few minutes, think of the difficulty or issue, and breath deeply.

You will either come up with a solution, or be in a better frame of mind to deal with the task ahead.

The Quick Coach" enables you to try out coaching techniques for yourself, without having to take too much time out to do it!

If you have a lot of tasks to do, and you write a 'to do' list, more often than not, by the end of the day, you can cross off all the jobs you completed. Much to your satisfaction.

To do lists work because you are giving your conscious mind explicit directions on what needs to be done, and your clever mind on both a conscious and subconscious level, will work hard at finding ways to get those tasks completed.

The same can be done daily, if you SET YOUR INTENTION FOR THE DAY AHEAD.

What this means is spending a few moments to decide how you want your day to go.
Think of what lies ahead, and say to yourself something like

• I intend to enjoy the drive to work
• I intend to spend 3 mins deep breathing at my desk.
• I intend to remain calm in my meeting at 3pm.................................

Whatever it is you want for yourself, to feel, or do, or say, or enjoy, try setting your intention.

You are setting up your internal checklist, and directing your subconscious on how your day will go.

Remember, the internal messages you give your brain directly affects the results you get.

Direct your brain to getting the most from each day, one day at a time, and see how you fare!

Until next time!

"The Quick Coach" enables you to try out coaching techniques for yourself, without having to take too much time out to do it!

Quick De-Stressor

Are you ready to scream?
Are you close to tears?
Do you feel exhausted?

(Even if you can't close your eyes, this is effective)

Close your eyes, and breath in one deep breath while saying to yourself - "calm"
Breath out one long breath, while saying to yourself - "love"

Repeat for a few moments, and feel yourself beginning to come back to an even keel.

You can say whatever words you want, for eg, peace, joy, smile, relax, whatever suits you and what state of feeling you want to achieve.

The Quick Coach

" The Quick Coach" enables you to try out coaching techniques for yourself, without having to take too much time out to do it.

For those of you on the go, here are a few ideas for finding your ideal partner!

• Whether you are in a relationship, not in one, or just out of one, I want you to examine your past loves, your past losses. What were the similarities, what were the differences between these relationships?.
  More importantly, who were YOU in each relationship?
• What qualities would you like your ideal partner to have, and what qualities do you bring to a relationship.
  If you don’t know what you are looking for, how can you find it?
  It is important to realise what qualities you want a partner to have.
• But its also important to know how do you want to feel in a relationship?
• So if you are single, or in a relationship, take some time to think about how exactly you want to feel in the presence of a lover. This is important, because I believe that with a partner, it is important for you to feel comfortable in expressing all aspects of yourself, even the contradictory aspects – strong and weak, sexy and slovenly, energetic and lazy, clever and silly, humorous and cross.
  
  What are your different sides? Who are you? What makes you happy, what makes you sad? What makes you feel alive? What gets you jumping out of bed in the morning?
  
  What gets you jumping into bed?
  What needs, desires, and wishes do you want a / your relationship to fulfil?
  
  Think back to your different past relationships. Were you the same person in each relationship? Was your character the same with each partner? Were you more outgoing with Joe than with Jack? Did you feel sexier with Dave than with Ben? Were you in awe of Claire, and more bossy with Sue?
• So whether you are single or attached, take some time to just examine who you are in a relationship. Who do you want to be in a relationship?
  
  Then you are more likely to either find what you are looking for, or be more happy, or more decided about a current relationship.
  

Thats all from The Quick Coach

Enjoy your Discovery!